Relationships…an extremely loaded word. Blood related, work related, school related, marriage related, neighbor related, church (or community-common interest) related. People add new dimensions to our lives and bring out latent gifts, strengths and weaknesses. Some relationships we tolerate, some we pursue, some we lose. It is an ill wind that doesn’t blow some good through them all.
Many of our relationships bring with them expectations and as time passes, some of these expectations need to change – like parent/child or husband/wife because they are not realistic or because of each other’s personal growth or lack thereof.
We put so much importance on some relationships that we do things in opposition to our own well-being in order to keep that relationship. There are actually some people who will take advantage of your need for their love and acceptance…it is not totally their fault, we have allowed it.
T. D. Jakes once wrote a sermon called, “The Gift of Goodbye”. I have had to learn that gift because I wanted to be loved and accepted at any cost. Rejection or acceptance, I reasoned, was a reflection of my value. It is a grand thing to learn that my value isn’t related to acceptance or rejection of any other human. I have always been good at “The Gift of Hello”, and I hope I will never lose that gift from fear of rejection.
Although God doesn’t create all relationships to last forever, He does create them for a reason. In God’s sight, there are no failed relationships, because He places every person and every relationship in your life for a reason. It might be to teach you a lesson or help you grow, but you must understand there is a purpose for every person He places in our path. The lessons you learn from each person or relationship will prepare you for what God has planned for you in the future. It’s very important that you allow God to place the right people in your life, according to His plan. God will often use people and relationships to build you up and make you stronger so that you will be able to handle the plans He has for you. Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. –George Elliott
He has made everything appropriate in its time He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end. (Ecclesiastes 3:11 NASB)
Philippians 1:6 The Passion Translation
I pray with great faith for you, I’m fully convinced that the One who began this glorious expression of grace in you will faithfully continue the process of maturing you through your union with him and will complete it at the unveiling of our Lord Jesus Christ!